Why do so many of us deserve exactly what we get?
Have you ever thought about the question: why are there so many unhappy people around? It is very difficult to meet a happy person, so it seems that a life full of bitterness and turmoil is normal.
In reality, this should not be so: the normal state of the soul is joy and peace. We are made unhappy by high expectations for ourselves, our loved ones, our level of wealth, career, and much more.
It seems to a person with excessive expectations that the environment and his own imperfection are to blame for his unstable internal state. He is sure that he is nervous because of the discrepancy between reality and his desires, and in order to calm down, he must ensure that his dreams come true. But inflated expectations differ from a sound desire for improvement in that they are groundless - they are not backed up by the real capabilities of the object they are aimed at.
In fact, this is a psychological deviation, which is accompanied by anxiety, nervousness, suspiciousness. Those who have acquired the syndrome of inflated desires always think that they deserve more than they have. At the same time, such people often do not realize that they do not correspond to the level of their own requests.
So they can apply for positions for which they do not have sufficient qualifications; dream of marrying an idol or marrying a celebrity. There is no ceiling on their ambitions.
The conflict of the real and fictional world, the inability to achieve the goal again gives rise to anxiety and concern - the circle closes.
This syndrome grows from an inferiority complex - a person tries to compensate for internal lack of self-sufficiency through external attributes (a beautiful wife, wealth, a chic house).
Receiving a “brush-off” from life, he is even more immersed in his complex. Both others and the person himself suffer from exorbitant demands.
Very often this is manifested in the attitude of wives towards their husbands - it always seems to a woman that her husband is not good enough, earns too little, does not know how to perform his tasks properly. At the same time, she completely forgets that she is not perfect either. The wife gnaws on her beloved and is constantly upset by his sluggishness.
We do the same with children, demanding that they be neat and real prodigies - but they are just children who learn the world through mistakes.
Excessive demands are also manifested in oneself: one must be the best, do everything at the highest level - this is where perfectionism arises.
But here's the catch - often we deserve exactly what we get. And our spiritual harmony depends only on perception. Either we will be too demanding on our life - and therefore unhappy that it does not meet our inflated expectations, or we will accept it as it is. You just need to remember that the husband (wife) and children are living people, they also have their weaknesses, and not everyone is born to become presidents of great companies.
The first step towards fighting the syndrome of high expectations is its realization, the understanding that this is a trap of self-deception that you should not fall into. If you think all the time that everything could be better, then you can suffer from this endlessly, since there is no limit to perfection.
The most profitable investments are usually investments in yourself. Only constant self-development makes a person interesting, both for others and for himself.
