Inferiority Complex

What is an Inferiority Complex? How to find out if you have if? What are the main signs of inferiority complex? What are the examples of inferiority complex? These are many other questions are among those that thousands of people ask themselves every day.

Inferiority can only be found in the idea of one's own usefulness and integrity. When there is inferiority, a person has a compensatory idea of his own usefulness, with which he is identified. He has an idea for every item about who he is and how extraordinary he is.

And when his reflection by other people does not correspond to this idea, and it never corresponds, and cannot correspond to his idea, his suffering and humiliation are endless.

Such a person has a fear of being reflected unfavorably. He depends on the reflection and is constantly anxious, worrying about being reflected according to his own idea of ​​completeness. If his usefulness is reflected, he is human, if not, if someone does not reflect him the way he wants, then he develops anger, defensive hatred, bravado, he begins to conflict.

The idea of inferiority enters only when there is a rejection of oneself. This happens at an early age, when the child begins to compare himself with other children, when parents, teachers, educators provoke the child to such a comparison, showing that “Bobby is better than you - he is neat, and you are sloppy. He is an excellent student, and you are a student with bad grades, he is diligent, but you are not.

Adults, raising a child by comparison and showing him that "the other kid is good, and he is bad," make him a neurotic. Until his mind was pointed in a certain way and they didn’t say that “that guy/girl is like that, but you are not like that,” he will not compare himself, someone must definitely push him into this abyss.

And everyone pushes and pushes, because they compare their children, showing, emphasizing the viability of other children, and the failure of their own. In fact, this is the rejection by parents of their own children, which masquerades as upbringing. And in this way, comparing their own children with other children, with the achievements of other children, the child is sentenced to inferiority.

The child is complete, innocent and simple-hearted. He will definitely have access to all his inner wealth, all his inner potential, but this will take time. And adults should have colossal patience, love and respect for their children. Children are the future, and they will live in a completely different world, in different years, in a different information space.

But we immediately make the child neurotic so that he can be controlled, manipulated and possessed. However, his uniqueness disappears in all this, it is lost and he will never know himself, his individuality, his talent, he will not meet with himself now if he does not begin his growth in consciousness, his self-knowledge. This is how every child is lost, because he could develop quite gently and reveal his own potential, something that is so necessary for humanity, but he cannot do this, because the child is not given the opportunity to develop according to his nature.

The human brain, this is a scientific fact, can contain all the libraries of the world, this is not a problem for the mind. And all scientific minds are working to pack the child's mind with information so that no computer can compare with it. Memory is valued. A person is valued for his memory; he is not valued by uniqueness, by individuality, by his own unique combination, as a personality, as the future of mankind. He is valued and judged simply by his memory. When we pass an exam, they simply evaluate our memory, and the fact that now we will go out and forget everything is nothing to them.

The hypocrisy lies in the fact that we are given a grade for how much we have sat at the books, how much we have memorized - this is very appealing to the teacher, because his subject is learned, and he gratefully gives us a good grade for our memory. And our memory is worth nothing, because this approach blocks the road to our uniqueness, our development, our vision of the essence of life, integrity, our sensitivity, and a person is pinned to the wall like a butterfly at the very beginning.

Now he will run after the crowd in order to keep up, think about how he will fulfill himself brilliantly in the world, showing ambition, vanity, but all this will be compensation for his inferiority.

A person, a child, who develops according to himself, will be fulfilled in a special way, according to his own nature. It will become his contentment, he will become contentment itself. There are no satisfied people on earth just because no matter how much a person works and no matter how he uses his brains, this does not affect his heart, his essence.

The distortion starts very early. The child's gaze is turned so that he compares, so that he can be manipulated, so that he lives in fear all the time. Inferiority arises, and inferiority means fear, fear of doing something wrong, it means self-doubt, it means timidity, it means embarrassment, it means a constant test of whether we are dressed correctly, whether we look properly. The whole industry works for a person, because he has inferiority - if you are inferior, in order to compensate for your inferiority, you must have ten thousand dollars, fifty thousand dollars, a necklace, a car, and not a simple one, but a car exactly like this, a yacht - this is how usefulness is created.

In fact, it should not be about usefulness, but about integrity. There is no usefulness, usefulness is a claim. There is a person's integrity, and a person will certainly become whole on earth, if he is not broken at the very beginning, if this bud is not taken and squeezed in his own hand.

This means children will need to be approached with love, then you will actually have to love children, not only worry about how to feed them, how to dress and shoe them - you will have to love them. They will have to be observed, you should be conscious, attentive, direct their movements, and show them the right direction. And not even show, but follow them and correct, and in this case we must be aware.

If only a fragment is selected from the whole, then the whole disappears and is missed. Not living in wholeness, living only on a fragment, we give up our destiny and try to find solace by running to fortune-tellers, astrologers, to learn from them about our destiny. We are waiting to be consoled, saying that luck, money and great love await us at the next crossroads, not realizing that our destiny is integrity. It is integrity that allows a person to fulfill his own destiny on earth.