Self-development: where to start. Stages of self-development

Why are we talking about self-development now? Why do we feel inside that this is important? Each of us has certain talents, predispositions. Something we reveal, develop in ourselves, and much remains underrevealed for one reason or another. But we are here on Earth in order to reveal ourselves to the maximum.

One of the simplest analogies that comes to mind when describing the inner world of a person is a garden or simply a space planted with plants.

Someone has a well-groomed garden where only necessary and useful plants grow; for someone it is overgrown with weeds (envy, fear, deceit, laziness, etc.) that stifle useful crop (talents and abilities that we have); someone just has a dark forest (everything is so overgrown that you don’t even understand if there is anything necessary and useful there at all), and someone has a whole world full of colors, enthusiasm, tranquility, peace and other usefulness.

In fact, each of us is his own director, creator, gardener and many others, and each of us is responsible for what he planted, what he grew, what he created - and who he eventually became.

Three stages of self-development - caring for your "garden"
• 1. Weeding and cleaning the unnecessary (we remove stereotypes, bad habits, emotions and thoughts that interfere with your life, etc.).
• 2. Maintaining our inner world in a comfortable state.
• 3. Cultivation, planting plants that are useful and necessary for us (development of those qualities that we need and that are useful for us).

In other words, the system of self-knowledge-self-development looks like a path to the mountain in a spiral, step by step. We have risen to a certain level - we go through the following 3 stages:
• 1. We remove-uproot unnecessary qualities.
• 2. We fix the state.
• 3. We develop and develop what is necessary and useful.

And we get to the barrier, which, in fact, is the beginning of a new stage, on which you need to pull yourself up, rise and ... 3 classical stages again, but at a new level of perception.

Pay attention to the following: what was needed and served us at the previous stage often becomes unnecessary at the next one - this detail is worth keeping in mind.

One more thing – the path to the Self must be done with the meaning of Being-I. In other words, to consciously think and Be Yourself - a Personality, and not a social appendage. That is, to live consciously according to one's own principles and laws, which should be above social norms and stereotypes.

Sometimes it turns out to independently realize oneself and understand where the social stereotype is (although this often takes decades, or even several incarnations); sometimes, if you find a Mentor in Soul and Heart, everything happens much faster.