Depression After Vacation.

It seems that everyone knows why the melancholy gnaws at you long before the rest: “it looks like there is no light at the end of tunnel at work”. But why do psychologists observe a surge in depression immediately after returning to work from vacation?

How to spend your vacation properly so that when you return home, you can enjoy the memories, and not take sedative pills?

Reason #1: Too high expectations.

For example: I wanted to go to Spain, but I only have enough money for some local places. And this is not what I wanted at all ...

- What to do to make sure you enjoy your vacation? Write down your strengths and weaknesses on paper; in two columns. On the left one you write honestly, for example: "I have little money." You ponder this phrase. You write down the amount you can allocate for vacation. And you admit: 1) you will have to proceed precisely from this amount; 2) vacation pleasure is not much dependent on money. Many people travel on a budget, even with tents, and are satisfied. Everything is inside us: what kind of mood a person brought on vacation, with this he will spend time there.

- And what if the weather is bad? It does not depend on the person.

We must agree with ourselves once and for all: if we cannot influence some things (weather, natural phenomena), we must stop reflecting on this. Shower rain? Go to the pool. No pool nearby? Look out the window and understand: the downpour will not last forever (of course, if you, by your own stupidity, did not choose a trip to Thailand during the rainy season). One must say thank you already for the fact that you breathe quite different air on vacation that you have in the usual gas-polluted city. Ultimately, one must acquire the habit of being grateful for everything.

Reason #2: Love has never been found.

For some people, vacation is the goal to find a companion, but he / she is still not there.

- In fact, you don't have to give yourself any plans for a vacation; you don't have to wait for fateful meetings. Let it be. Moreover, some men say that women actively looking for a partner look rather unpleasant– they usually have an appraising look.

Reason #3: The interests do not match.

For example, a woman decides: “I will do everything as it will be more interesting not for me, but for the children and for my husband...” A family psychologist Natalia Varskaya tells about such an example. In a camping, she ran into a family that has been traveling only there from for 13 years! The husband is usually fishing, but the daughter and wife simply do not know what to do there...

- There is one choice of the two: either relax and have fun, or protest. Firstly, the wife can try to love this fishing, to get carried away herself, by the way, this is really an exciting leisure. There were cases when wives got so involved in fishing that their husbands could no longer drag them away. If you do something for your loved one, do it with joy and voluntarily. Nobody wants sacrifices. Is Dad going fishing? Good! Your daughter and you can go to the resort, for example.

Reason #4: The contrast between vacation and work routine.

It is bad if a person returns to an unloved job, because people miss the work they like even on vacation, even in spite of the most vivid emotions.

- Well, if work is unloved, you need to find something that will captivate you personally. For example, a hobby: you will expect to finally go dancing on Wednesday or to do floristry on Thursday. Then there will be no such contrast between the vacation, where you did something, and the routine.

There is a common advice: to avoid post-vacation depression, you should return a few days before work. It has a grain of rationality, but not for everyone. For someone, on the contrary, it is easier to get directly from the sea to the land.

Reason #5: There is no money left at all.

For example: you wanted to buy good perfume for your wife for her birthday after the vacation, but then it turns out that more was spent on vacation than was intended.

- Let the man have the blues, it's okay! This is an objective thing: when there is no money, people become sad. One can advise to distribute the budget, but not everyone, alas, can learn this. One must accept: there is no money now, but there will be later. You can review the vacation photo: here, how beautiful it was here, which means that the money was not wasted in vain. Although ... there is a risk that someone will look at the pictures and think: well, why did I squander my money on this ?! It's just that some people like to nibble and be unhappy with everything. This is their way of being. They have such an empty pastime that they fill it with negativity, otherwise they will not understand what else to talk about with people.

Don't trust social media. “One of my clients went to Africa with a company of friends,” the psychologist says. - And he posted himself on the social network: here he is against the background of a waterfall, here against the background of a picturesque cliff ... And then he told the truth: it's all about Photoshop, with the help of which he removed the huge queues of tourists before and after him. And he also tinted the water blue (in fact, it was cloudy). Here's what a picture on the Internet is worth of. So do not rush to be envious of photos and admiring stories on social networks!

Use positive aspects.

- At the very beginning, speaking about high expectations, we wrote on paper the pros and cons of the upcoming holiday. And so the vacation ended. Is it possible to apply the principle of paper after vacation?

- Paper is a useful thing. Let's say a person is upset after a vacation. He sits down and writes in the left column what the negative has happened. For example: "Everything was boring." In another column, what was the benefit of the vacation, for example, "One evening I met a snake tamer." And then let him think about how to use the positive aspects. Someone, maybe, will write about this on a social network, someone will draw a picture - and discover the artist's abilities. Someone will begin to study the area in which they have been deeper. You need to extend this positive feeling further into your life.