An effective phrase that can handle the conflict
We present to your attention one powerful and especially effective phrase that helps stop many conflicts. Often this strong psychological construct calms even the most resentful and angry people.
In order to quickly nullify a quarrel, conflict or any other unpleasant conversation, you should say: “You are the last person on the planet whom I would like to offend!”
Recognition of the importance of the interlocutor, his exclusivity and peculiarity. His/her sense of importance is actively warmed up. Despite the conflict, you value him/her much more than other people.
Visualization of the scale of your unwillingness to offend him. There are so many people on the planet, a huge world with billions of people. The psychological method of parallels works. Based on the social law of comparison, you draw an analogy with all other inhabitants of the planet.
Another switch is the recognition of the power of your personality. Basically, you state that you can offend a person. And you are not afraid and do not hesitate to do it if required. But you don't need it. And even more so, there is no need to offend the person to whom this phrase is aimed.
When a person hears this, on a subconscious level, several important switches work for him:
It is better not to leave this strong speech construction open. After you have said these words, it is useful to add a softening clarification and explanation of why you do not want to quarrel or conflict with the person. You will need to explain why you really care about your relationship with him/her.
